Nothing But Headaches Dealing With The New Gentry

Morning Musing on Carrying The Weight of Other’s Errors

Luvlies, Good morning. I’m going to keep this sweet and short. People are headaches. I have a headache right now thinking about the people I’ve been interacting with lately. Sure, we all make mistakes from time to time, but I’m convinced we are in an age of perpetual error. God, my words read like a pretentious snob, but hear me out…

I’m not sure when or how it happened, but the level at which we used to do things has degraded. We’ve gone the opposite way from exceptional or even very good to the bare minimum at best.

We’re all behaving like landed gentry, a group of people who never wanted to do anything that required effort, or a modicum of friction to their daily life. Born into a society, without knowing how to build community. Terms like ‘simplify’ or ‘soft luxury’ have entered the chat, as if that is an option for anyone outside of the 1%. But we’re cherrypicking from the past to apply to our present.

We’re choosing to look back in time for our approach to the future, without remembering how much forced labour was behind the ideology of making our lives easier. For a simple garment to be made, at least 10 people (who were not Gentry), were involved in that highly dangerous process [garment making was always harmful and risky]. Now, we have about 20 – cannot forget freight and logistics – and they’re all miserable doing it. Based on the length of a production process, the chance of errors increases. So if your process involves less than 4 people, why is it failing? Why is it riddled with errors? Why make easy tasks more difficult than they need to be?

People like the idea of having a team of staff working for them or being an ingénue or a savant boss, but never a good lead or community member. Those titles require effort and energy. People relish in the idea of being served, rather than doing the serving.

For the no-nuance Nelly’s, I’m not saying but your back into it for the Man. I’m saying put your back into SOMETHING. Be good at something.

Here are a few wonderful examples of what putting your back into what you love looks like:

You don’t have to be good at processing paperwork or chatting with strangers, but you don’t have to be SO bad at it either. If you’re dropping the ball, the ball still needs to be picked up, otherwise the game stops.

What most people are expecting is that I, an outsider, am going to come in and pick up that ball for you. As an outsider, I’m standing in your world confused. Confused as to why I’m the one now holding your heavy ball, when I just came in with a simple ‘yes or no’ question… I’m gonna stop this now before it gets away from me.

Bottom line: Be LESS BAD at whatever you’re required to do. Put your back into what you love to do.

And BTW, for those of us trying to replicate the Landed Gentry lifestyle, they were always worried about money. They constantly lost their fortunes, and ended up in squalor. Gentry didn’t live very long because they had strange issues around food and cleanliness and became parasitic in nature. They were frail and didn’t use their bodies, because their fashionable garments were heavy and restrictive. They expected people to do their bidding for them out of duty. Their hair fell out from poor nutrition so they needed to wear wigs. Gentry had every type of affliction imaginable, and most women died in childbirth because they didn’t have clean water around.

I guess culturally… we’re almost there again.

…and that’s time. A little ramble-y but I got there. Share your thoughts down below.

See you tomorrow Luvlies!

xoxo Luv Laney Luv

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